Tower

[Jayce]

Hey, Cinco.
Good letter. Clear, heartfelt, says everything specifically. I hope her mental reaction wasn't "Again!!!???"

Whether or not a woman feels justified in some way for withholding sex, or not responding to her H's desire, somewhere way inside there has to be some guilt after reading this kind of letter. That could result in an emotional conversation that helps, or being defensive. Defensiveness may mean withdrawal, avoiding you and conversation, or it could mean an argument. If its an argument, with any kind of luck, she may get angry enough to blurt out what's bothering her and saying it out loud means admitting it to herself. No more supressing, its out there to deal with. Your reaction at that point will be important in whether or not the outcome is positive.

Then again, she may just not really know why the LD. How does your D seem with all this going on? She must sense the tension even if she doesn't hear arguing. Kids know so much about what's going on w/us sometimes its embarrassing. They are more observant and perceptive than we think. I hope her feelings about sex are positive.

I hope her first day on the new job goes well. How would you feel if working eventually made her feel more independent & she initiated separation? I'm guessing she's not the kind of wonam who'd do that. Family is important to her.

Let us know how it goes. I believe the letter was a good step to take.
J