Need to think on this guys. Maybe I don't want to do the stuff you're suggesting because it HELPS me detach and progress towards walking away. Maybe in the back of my mind that's what I really WANT, but just haven't convinced myself yet. So if I just let her continue to NOT try and there by increase my anger and distance, I'll get where I want to be, which is not with her.
Boy, there's some pysco babble huh? I don't think that's the case, but I wonder sometimes.