I will ask the school counselor but wondered if any of you who have experienced this could weigh in...
As prev. mentioned, my kids will be living part-time at their dads. I want it to be "home" for them too, when they are there. To that end, they will be stocked in books, toys, clothes, and movies at both houses.
We are not made of money so I can't get doubles of everything we already have. But b/c we have a large extended family the kids have received TONS of toys/books over the years at birthdays and holidays. We will really only have to get some extra shirts and pants since they even have a lot of pajamas too.
Anyway the question is
Should my 6 yr old son help pick what books/toys go to his dad's house, or should I just pack that all myself?
On one hand, I would like to just load up some of the toys and books and jammies and stuff and H can take it over with him when he is ready for it. But I didn't know if Nathan would feel like I snuck around and 'took' his stuff from our house if he wasn't included. I thought if he went to the house for the first time and was like "Wow! There's my dinosaur mountain! My Bionicle books!" etc that might be nice for him.
But I also thought it could help him feel involved/included if he got to pick out some of the things he took to his dads.
I suppose it could be a happy medium. I could take some of the more 'generic' toys/books/clothes--ones he enjoys but not among his most prized--and pack them up. But also tell Nathan he can pick a couple of his precious things to take over too if he wants. Like he has a half-dozen favorite stuffed animals, four or five favorite books,etc. And I could let him decide which of those stay or go.
Maybe I am overthinking it. The best way for me to get through this is to be a list-maker/planner. If I look at it as tasks to complete (separate banking, check; divide up medical bills, check; etc) it helps me deal with it objectively....
