Not to argue WDID, but what more do I need to say?
I've said I'd like her to read books, I've made it VERY clear how I feel about her affair momento's, I've asked her to go to Retro 3 times, I've told her that even if she doesn't realize it, WE need to discuss this, both my contribution (which I've repeatedly taken responsibility for and work on everyday) and her allowing herself to go where she did.
But still she can't say to me "I want to try". And her actions don't show me she is. You may think so and I'll trust you on that coming from a woman who knows what my W is going through, but I just get the feeling she's on cruise control until S16 graduates from H.S. and then she's gone without even trying. If that's what she wants (and her actions show me it is), then fine, lets be done with it so I can move on with my life. I mean, she gets to live in a nice house mostly provided by me, she gets to be involved daily in S16's life, I take her on trips, to shows, buy her LOTS of stuff. Life ain't too bad for her. Why SHOULD she meet me half way when she's livin large and doesn't have to face anything she's done that contributed to where we are/were?
Can you tell I'm cynical?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.