Man, that's a lot to deal with! I'm so sorry. I'm glad you're seeing the doctor for the depression.
I love all of L_L's suggestions. I think avoiding R talks would be a fantastic 180 for you to try! (I know, you'll be shocked to hear me say that ).
I completely agree with finding some pampering/stress relief, too. I know the torch is one thing you really enjoy - can you set aside some "me time" each week to be sure you do that? Some other regular pampering sounds like it's in order, too.
Swamped at work this week but I'll post more soon.
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