SOunds like you are doing pretty well. You are in reality mode and it is where you need to be. It will make her live in reality as well.
Moving...wth.....You have talked to a lawyer, etc., right? Just make sure you are not caught off guard with this....my divorced friend the other day said how she plans on moving to a city 2 hours away and she is taking the kids, because they need their mother, and her ex is just going to have to deal with it. These type of people ONLY care about themselves. They are in a selfish, destructive mode, and until/unless she realizes this is not right, she will continue to live this way. Just be careful. I have hope for your wife, but she has not realized the error of her ways, and until she does she will not be making good choices.
