hey BM,
I've been lurking and reading your story \:\) and I'm thinking that yeah, maybe you should push him a little to either sh*t or get off the pot.

That may not be very DBish, but you need to take care of you and your son. Once your H goes or doesn't then at least you'll have some calm (hopefully) in your home to think. And if he goes he'll have time to think (and maybe miss you).

My 2 cents...

H 51/W 43
Together 24yrs/Married 19yrs
2 kids- D18 & S16
"I want out" July 2008
"I want out" Dec 2008
"I want you out" Aug 2009
Still in house thru it all