Hey Ali- I am glad that you are seeing the pattern of what happens when he makes contact; it puts you on a real rollercoaster. Anyway-- I was talking to my daughter yesterday about dating and it seems like something you might benefit from.
There is a woman author who suggests 'circular dating'. What that means is that UNTIL a guy actually says "I would like to commit to you and have you commit to me" you go out on dates with at least 3 guys continuously. Not that you sleep with them, or even kiss them; just that you keep your options open. It takes the pressure of you so that you can just enjoy spending time with the guys without the worry of "where is this relationship going".
It boosts your self esteem to have different men interested. It helps you figure out what you are looking for. And instead of "falling into" a relationship, you will *know* which guy actually has the desire to commit to you.
Your Mileage May Vary
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
