Hi PM, it sounds like our Hs are similar. My H spends money like water also. Especially since this A started. Racking bills on the credit card and he took money from his 401K just to spend. I don't think OW fully knows about all the debt he has. She figures he is making good money as supervisor so she should be sitting pretty. I don't think so. My H still has an apt he is never in.

If your H is living with OW then the fantasy will start going away. Not to sexy taking out the garbage and doing lawn work. Because your H made no changes within himself all he is doing is moving his problems to the next address. Not a good way to start a "new" life. I do hope that he continues to see the his children especially since they are so young but you can't force him. Does the OW have kids?

Take care. We will pray for each other.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09