Looking backward but only to move forward SEVEN

[sage]

Things are mostly going well here. I'm doing GREAT with my diet/exercise goal -- have lost a few pounds and feel terrific and really motivated.

Not so much decluttering which is BAD -- I KNOW if I just do it for a few minutes I'll get into it but I'm so drained that I just don't start. I NEED to get back to this -- especially as when I did do it for a few days, H noticed and commented on it.

Listening goal...well, I'm doing sort of ok with this except when the topic is a difficult one and then I'm back to my bad habits. H is talking about quitting his job and starting his own practice. I literally feel sick when he talks about it...um, why would you quit a stable job that pays us a stable salary and has low or no chance of resulting in firing or getting laid off in the midst of the worst economic climate since the Depression? That makes NO SENSE to me and I still haven't come up with a way to convey that that isn't going to scream "I'm not supportive of you" to him (he has heightened sensitivity to that). I was just starting to feel as though we were getting our financial feet back under us and now this. UGH.

So, then, gotta re-focus on the listening. I'll also add the goal of spending more quiet time with H (even though my head is reeling with thoughts of a jillion things to do). We have a long weekend ahead of us so that should help.

Sara