Now W is telling me she isn't interested in Sex. She stated it just doesn't interest her anymore and can live without it.
We have all heard this.
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When we woke up this am, a back rub started to lead to something else.
She rubbed your back !!! - excellent! but you were not happy at that and pushed it further!? - PURSUING
You rubbed her back !! - PURSUING
I am not sure you are getting this, is this helping you detach? Is this giving her space? Is this earning her love and respect.
I am sorry to be blunt but these creaping and pursuing actions, are coming across to her as a creapy slimeball, trying to satisfy you immediate needs. This will not earn her love and respect, and certainly is not helping you detach.
Going back to the first point about living without sex. Mine said this, could be menapausal, but she has certainly got her drive back now with another man.
Mine actually said, she wanted to live on her own, was certainly not going to go from the pan into the fire, and if she made a mistake, then would hook back up for the children. (absolute drivel)
Lies, lies and more lies!
In reality we begin to repulse them, and actions like back rubs and requests for sex make the situation worse. In reality they may well be another man, and they feel a warped sense of betrayal to the OM by still having sex with the LBS.
I am sorry to be blunt, but we are the same age, and the situation is so similar, and if I can stop someone making the same mistakes as I did, then my time on this board is my payback for the support and help I received.
