ok guys listen to this... I had not spoken to my xh in almost 4 days! I know that isnt alot, but to me it was a BIG step forward. Anyway, I was lying in bed this afternoon, awake, when I heard my front door close. I thought it was my son at first, so I yelled his name, he answered from his bedroom, (we were upstairs), so I went downstairs and yelled again, "Who is it?". No one answered, so I looked out the fron door, and my xh's vehicle was in my driveway. He had been in the downstairs bathroom. He came into the kitchen and my first reply was, "What the heck are you doing?", he said he had come by to pick up his MP3 player. I told him, that he just couldnt come in like this. He said he spoke with our son on the phone and asked him to hand the player out the door to him, but he wouldnt, so he came in to get it. I told him he needed to speak with me from now on, that I paid the bills at my house and I didnt like him just showing up. Anyway, we talked a little and he informed me that he wanted to completely be done with me. HELLO, I didnt call you for 4 days and now you show and tell me this!!!! Anyway, I asked him if that meant he wanted to be strangers and he said no, but very little contact. Blah, blah, blah. Mind you, anytime he seems upbeat and happy to be rid of me, there is usually someone else in the picture. (Getting smarter) Well remember awhile back I had said I was talking to one of the women he had went out with and she was so nice to me. Well since then, she has called me and texted me and I thought she understand because she was going thru same thing. Turns out I should have listened to you people here. She has been telling my xh EVERYTHING (I think) that we have been talking about, and vice versa with him. She was playing both sides! I confronted my xh about it tonight and we discussed it, not calmly at first, alot of hurt feelings came out of me, but then once I calmed down, we had a pretty good talk. He said she was playing us both, and he was done with her. (Who knows). I told him,(and yess I cried), that it hurt me very much to think of him confiding in her about our talks. This was some of the things he said. *He said he knew that I had been thru alot and he felt bad for me. (He has admitted its his fault, finally) *He said that he loved me most days. *He said no one would ever come between his family, meaning his son and I. *He said she was like a favorite toy. I told him that I felt he was feeling for her what he felt for me and we first met years ago, and he said it wasnt even CLOSE to what he felt for me when we met. He said he just like being with her because she was fun.
And before we hung up, he said he would call and check on me tomorrow. Now, I do believe he was honest about his feelings. I never thought he stopped loving me, I knew he wouldnt admit it. I am not saying he is coming home, but I did say to him, that one day he would regret the things he has done and said to me, and I truly believe he will. Listen, I truly think, that no matter what we do, if the other spouse has someone else in their life to play with, as my xh put it "a new toy", they could care less how dark we go and if we ever called. BUT, its when they are alone, that they miss us. If I am wrong, please correct me. Well that was my evening story. Comments Please! Go ahead and let me have it. lol
