Wife is out Tuesday. WOW! How will I make it??

[Trippingbilly]

Well I hadn't been able to save this marriage. She is moving out Tuesday and moving to a neighboring town about 45 minutes away. I am not thrilled about my kids going that far away. And I can't even see or speak to my wife. She said she thought it was time, and she was leaving. It's about to kill me and I am not going to lie, I can't keep the bad thoughts out of my head.

[Hopeful Husband]

Hello Trippingbilly,

Welcome! Sorry you find yourself here but this is a place that can really help you. Listen, just because your wife is moving 45min away doesn't mean it is over. Did she file yet? Maybe this space will be a good thing. Read some of the peoples forums on this site. Some people were physically separated from their spouse for months some even years and somehow they have made it back to eachother. Hang in there. Maybe this separation will be a good thing. Maybe it will help both of you look at yourselves to make you better for her and her better for you. I am new at this too. I had to move out of my house at the beginning of December. Just because I am out doesn't mean I am losing faith.

[dday101798]

Judging by your sig line information, obviously something isn't working and perhaps some "breathing room" is in order.

I think my sitch would have shown signs of hope much more quickly if my W would have moved that far away, she only went 4 block to live with OM, and THAT didn't help me at all.

Keep hangin, and keep posting, nothing is over til it's over.

[sandycay]

How is it that a parent has a legal right to move that far away from the other parent. I know when my friend got S and then D it was agreed upon the distance they could live apart. Don't you have some say in your childrens whereabouts?

[dday101798]

How is it that a parent has a legal right to move that far away from the other parent. I know when my friend got S and then D it was agreed upon the distance they could live apart. Don't you have some say in your childrens whereabouts?

Well, I can say from my personal dealings with the local PD whom I think are running off a set of 50 year outdated laws: Unless their is a parenting agreement filed with a judge, my W could take our boys at any time, and go anywhere with anyone without my permission as we are married and thus entrust in each other the care of our children.

Legally seperated, different story as you need a a parenting agreement and support finding.

So unless the act of removal is deemed harmful to the childs well-being and defies a legally filed parenting agrement, I've come home and either having kids or don't.

[EnergyAZ]

Tripping

My wife moved out in October. As of monday, she has decided to come back to the table with an open mind. (see my thread in this section if you want more detail)

Perhaps this is what needed to happen, space & time to sort things out?

Either way, I was feeling as hopless as you and had given up hope in Dec and decided that I would file D this month.

I dont want to give you any false hopes, trust me, I did NOT expect my wife to snap out of it and had accepted my fate and was ready to move forward in life when out of nowhere she decides its worth a shot after all.

But you are at the right place. Lots of resources and folks in similar shoes all pulling together and helping each other out.

Good luck!