WAW taking a step home?

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She moved out in October, but we had been living as uncomfortable roomates since last spring.

I too have a 4bd house that is $100k upside down I am trying to dig myself out of. I have no savings what so ever. We already did our property separation, liquidated assets (including IRA) and eliminated credit debt. There really wasnt much left after that. I dropped her from health insurance, but we still have the auto policy which she does pay her share on.

I work W-Sat (12 hr shifts) and have my son the days I dont work, so I also dont have much opportunity to go out & blow steam. But, my wife will go out partying on a Sunday till 3am.

Dates? Surely you jest! It was very hostile between us from Sept-Dec and we only managed to become civil this past New Years Eve.

It was this past Monday that her turn around happened and she was very much interested in dating me again with the hopes it leads to full reconciliation. And now its Thursday and she is in full on persuit mode, asking me to spend the night at her apt tomorrow, sending sexy txt messages, wants to celebrate our 5 year anniversary that we missed (11/04), talks about counseling, etc. But she did similar last June and by August she had backslid into her wanting divorce again, so I cant allow myself to get too excited and just taking things day by day.

I still have my guard up, I cant believe what I am seeing, I have some serious trust issues with her and have a hard time believing the words she says. Still, its music to my ears so I remain cautiously optimistic and ready and willing to do my part to the best of my ability.

I agree, its all but impossible to go dark when you have kids. You have no choice but to see/speak with W on a pretty regular basis. At the rate we were going, I was horrified I needed to encounter this woman 2x per week for the next 15ish years.

Her turn around was so extremely sudden I cant explain it at all. I can only speculate. I was hoping a WAW could comment on this thread cause I could really use their insight.

I want to trust my girl, I want to believe in the things she says. But my heart says 'Dude, you been here before. Be careful'