Feeling very discouraged today. Talked to D28 at lunch, she said the way her father was talking last night he has long term plans with OW. When D28 said she would never meet the OW, my H said "how would I see you, you won't ever come to my house?" (right now he has his own apt that pretty much sits empty because he is at her house 5/6 nights a week).
H said "OW is really a good person", and my D28 told him she is the woman that broke up your M. H said I wasn't happy for a long time (I know babble babble babble) but D28 said the way he was talking she felt he really was planning on marrying her and making a life with her. H told D28 that the faster getting the D done the better it will be so all of us can move on (meaning that everyone will forgive him and have his girls think the OW is as great as he thinks and will just love her). He figures that once we are divorced I won't be angry with him anymore. (I think because in his [censored] up fog babble brainless mind that once I see he is truly happy that I will understand and want that for him)
I feel sick inside about it. I read other posts about how their WS are fence sitting or cake eating. Since the day my H said "he was not happy" after the A only being 1.5 months at that time, he never gave me any encouragement at all. Never once did he falter and say "I miss you", anything more than a hug goodbye. He seems to be on the original plan that he had mentioned at the counselor back in September...
1) He was moving to an apartment - 10/1 2) If all went well then in a few months then we would get divorced. (I had asked well are we going to try and work on the M after you moved and he said why would I want to work on the marriage if I am moving out -- 21 years and not to even try) 3) January 9 serves me D papers. (after agreeing Jan 4 to hold off the papers for about a month to get our D15 back on track who was having many issues because of this)
I feel like I am cut off at the knees
This OW has total control over him and is in this for the long haul. She has been divorced for 4 years and her spousal support just ended last year.
The only wrench in their plans is that now I have exposed them at work which will mean termination. If they stay together after that maybe they deserve each other.
Just not having a good day. _________________________
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
