Exactly how are you going to "apply DB techniques" on yours?
Well, I guess the first is setting the goal!
Then, you gotta start experimenting. I have tried to get away from being the judge in their conflicts to focussing on listening and validating each of them and then trying to get them to try new tactics with each other. That seems to be working the best. If I can get them into the mode of thinking about how to avoid the conflict vs. who is right or wrong, this is the best...unfortunately, it doesn't work every time.
I guess the younger you start this type of thing, the easier it is to change it. In your case, the kids are older, so it probably will take more persistance on your part.
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Would love to discuss this with you. Are you on the "alternate universe"?
Apparently not, but the bb works, if a bit more slowly than normal communications!
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