Hi Hope, I have been following your thread and has seen what you have been going thru. I know your POV involving exposure. it must have been very very difficult for you in the last few months. Unfortunately, in my situation and in my H's corporate culture, it's very very different. I have to tread very carefully 1) they will not fire my H, his job is very secure and there is no way they will threaten/transfer/fire him. He performs a specialty task for them and they think he is indispensable. Which leads to point two: her job. She is dispensable but because the company might fear a sexual harassment lawsuit from her, they won't fire her. I think the worse they would do is transfer her to another city. Which is unlikely because then they put her in a corner and she might want to fight back with said lawsuit. So, what are my options? If I expose, not only would my H be ultra pis*ed at me but also it will push the two of them together. Nothing like a Romeo and Juliet scenerio to make them think that the whole world is against them and they have pure love. Which is the last thing I want.
I think management would prefer to keep this A quiet and hope it quietly goes away. I don't think management will have the guts to act in this case. I have seen cases like this in the past and they did nothing so I know.
So I am going to GAL, have some fun, exercise and take my focus off H and his antics. I think reality is slowly creeping into his fantasy world as he is grumbling about money (going out to eat EVERY night is not as fun as it sounds). He might be in la-la land but he is paying for it and my H has always been on the cheap side.
I am so sorry that your H is drinking and spending heavily. I am praying for you, Hope.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
