The Sex-Starved Wife

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Hi...I am new to this forum. I'm sorry if I don't know all the acronyms yet. Here is my story in a nutshell...
I've been married to my husband for 10 yrs. I'm 50 and he's 46.
We ML once every 3 or 4 months and that is only because I initiate it. When we do ML, it is fantastic...at least for me.
He seems to enjoy it. I would like to ML once a week. Instead it is about 4 times a year. He doesn't seem to have any sex drive.
Here is the kicker...he is SO affectionate to me. He loves me so much. We hold hands, hug, kiss, say ILY all the time. I love him and desire him all the time. I still want him more than ever.
We each have one child from a previous marriage and they are grown and gone. So, we have plenty of opportunity. Instead, there's just a lot of cuddling going on. We sleep like spoons. I am so frustrated but I stopped complaining years ago. I don't know what to do. I don't think he sees me as a woman with desires.
I used to pout and then we would fight. He would promise to see a Dr. or go to counseling (which we did before for 2 visits). Nothing changed. I actually went to a lawyer to discuss a divorce but he didn't know that. The thing is...I REALLY love him so much. He is a truly wonderful man and a great husband. It is just this one thing that is not normal. I know he isn't gay.
I haven't changed physically in these 10 yrs...meaning I'm the same weight I was when we met. We were hot and heavy for the first few yrs. It has just tapered off until it has become so infrequent. Can anybody help me? I am really hurting. It makes me feel so undesireable. I don't want to live like this but I don't want to live without him either.

Has he tried testosterone replacement therapy? After we men hit about 35ish, our natural testosterone production starts to decline. Boosting testosterone levels (not talking steroids but doctor Rx) helps men in many ways and definitely known to help increase libido.