WAW taking a step home?

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I think our ladies might have 'daddy complexes'. The need for male validation due to lack of strong male role model in life.

My wife keeps in touch with her father, but he has spent a fraction of overall time with her over course of a lifetime. Always lived in different states, see each other once per year, etc. Long stretch where she might not see him for 2-3 years at a time, and only for a week or so.

As result of not really seeing a dad in action, my wife doesnt seem to understand some of my (fatherly) parental actions. I try to explain to her that our son will someday be a man and I will not coddle him else I raise a marshmallow creme puff. I am not overly strict, and I do not use physical discipline, nor do I scream and yell. However, she still thinks I am sometimes a bit 'harsh'

However, as he grows older...whenever he disobeys or tests his mother, she pulls out the 'wait till daddy hears about this' card. And it works for her! Even living separately, she asks him 'do you want me to call daddy?' :-)


Dude - of course you have problems, so do I! Thats why we are here in this boat. Fortunately for us, we seem to be willing to do something about them - which is a lot more than many others can say. So pat yourself on the back and realize the work you do in self improvement will make your life much better - with or without our current ladies.

I do the same thing, allow my weaker self to say something stupid that undermines my efforts. Just because she might say stupid things (and my girl also thinks I think I am better than everyone) doesnt mean we should. When they are lost in the fog, we are the ones who need to have clairity..and since we are flawed and not perfect ourselves, sometimes we struggle too.