I think our ladies may place too much emphasis on their looks for sense of self worth. Aging appears to be one of her great fears in life.
And while my lady wont admit it - she enjoys men's attention and has long string of relationships over her life as well. So her ability to attract men is something she seems to put a lot of self esteem into. I think this is very apparent by her exclusively going after younger men - to see if she still 'has it' (which she does - dunno why she needs the validation..)
How is your lady's relationship with her father?
Me: 37 Wife: 40 Son: 7yo Son: 18 mo Bomb: 12/31/07 Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now