I'm not sure of your definition of passive cos my wife is certainly not passive. Agressive, ignorant, selfish, belidgerant, maybe, ... but not passive.
I think the situation we have is W doesn't want to acknowledge any wrong doing, doesn't want to discuss anything remotely related to us and the R, she has stepped back in as if nothing has happened and thats how she wants to keep it. I'm not chasing for any answers either. I've just taken a step back and started observing.
As I mention before I have stopped persuing W, if she want a goodbye kiss, I give it, if she wants a hug I give it but I don't go chasing it. I also stopped pouncing on her at bed times, I did this purposely to see what would happen, The results are interesting.
What would it take for me to really give up ?, more money and no D7, I've got no money and a deep love for my daughter so I can't give up. I've thought of many different scenarios, I've thoought if some one game me a definate out I'd take it but it all come back to not doing anything to hurt D7.
So I'm battling throught this currret low and really trying to find a new level for my relationship with W.
We'll see what happens
Lanzo
PS
I'm logging off for now as W has asked me to stop spending too much time on the computer, but I'll probably be back in a couple of hours when she falls asleep.
