I have explained to him that it was a symptom. At this point he's saying all the typical WAH stuff, it's all your fault, I only married you because of x,y,z, I care about you but I'm not in love with you.

He's not taking ownership of his actions in any fashion. It's all my fault and as a result, it's almost like he's rebelling against me and won't seek counseling together or guarantee to work on the relationship for any length of time.

He decided he was through and moved out 01/01/09, happy new year right? I didn't see him at all on my 3oth bday, which was a couple of days later. And now he's advised me last evening, he's expiditing this divorce. This morning he said he'd go to two, and he mean's only two, counseling sessions at the church with me.

He's going to be deployed in near future and states he wants all of this taken care of before then but I'm positive it's because he wants to pursue a more intimate relationship w/his EA. And the worst part is, it's highly doubtful that if he is deployed in a month and half, she will stay by his side faithfully. He just doesn't understand what he's losing.

No solo de pan vive el hombre Y no de excusas vivo yo.