WAW taking a step home?

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She was flirting with at least 4 men that I am aware of, one of which may have been physical.

'just friends' is how she referred to them as well. That phrase scares the hell out of me cause its pretty difficult to have a plutonic relationship with members of the opposite sex that you find attractive - add the emotional vulnerability factor - thats blood in the water for the sharks to feed.

My wife up until Monday was behaving very similarly to yours, partying whenever she could, flirting with guys...essentially acting like a sorrority girl. She says she now realizes she was acting out and distracting herself. Still doesnt make me feel any better about it.

In my opinion, she is very attractive woman. And I used to take pride in that, now its a source of insecurity. Before all this crap happened, I could care less how many heads she turned because I was totally confident she only had eyes for me. Now that confidence is gone, my trust is gone, and I find myself paranoid about where she is, what she is doing, and with whom. Its very hard for my mind not to wander into dark alleys.


And yeah, for a while after she moved out she would constantly badger me about our son which would annoy me. Maybe it was just an excuse to call me? But she could have gone about it much more productively if that were the case.

Conflict resolution skills are something we badly need to work on as a couple. We have had epic power struggles and the egos to match. We must learn to tame our own egos because winning is not everything. Look at what a desire to win, desire to be right...has cost us. Very humbling lesson to learn that we can be our own worst enemies.

Not to mention, we are both pretty stubborn people. Me moreso than her.