Flash back two days after Christmas….The night before my wife went out with her cousins something that they do every once and awhile. What I didn’t know is that she had left the shin dig to go out with OM. And alienating her sister who was in town and wanted to spend time with her. The next day we go over the in laws house and my MIL takes my wife to the upstairs bedroom and starts to berate her over the previous night. Long story short… OM and wife’s cheating ways have been exposed to all. Afterwards she came downstairs to see me standing there…..I heard the entire convo. I suspected she was up to something but couldn't figure out a way to bring it up. It seems the OM had also bought her a very nice phone for Christmas which Id love to put a 1” drill bit through…. She of course lied about it and said she got a deal on it at the local phone store. Yeah I bet! MIL blew that open for me because that came up too.
Obviously we didn’t stay long and the ride home was quite. Once we got home and got the kids settled in I went for an impromptu ride. I couldn’t stay there because I was going to blow….Yes an 85 Monte with a 350 Chevy motor will light up the tires very nicely when your PO’d even with studs on the tires.
After I collected my thoughts I went back home. By this time she was in the bedroom crying. I went off on her quietly but I got my point across. I told her I put up with this crap for 3 years, the lies the crap and that I knew about the OM. I can’t say how but I did know. I said if the situation was revered what would have she done? Kicked me out of course. I asked about the phone and she confirmed it. I then asked what she got him for Christmas. She said nothing. Yeah right. I told her I forgave her but this has got to stop. It’s either us or him. I found her PA uncontested divorce papers and tore them up in front of her. I told her that there would be NO way she would ever get that from me. Im not leaving. I said a few other things but I don’t remember them atm.
Flash forward present day….she’s sleeping on the couch again. No ILY or anything which was a lie anyways. She is still seeing OM. No I didn’t expect it to end. Her lies are getting more and more creative. I usually don’t respond to them because I’ve gone dark. My attitude towards her is neutral as can be and she knows it. I don’t react to her in the ways that I used to. She on the other hand is playing nice but I know stuff is bugging her.
My routine hasn’t changed. I’m still working out everyday. Still enjoying my kids company And doing things with them. I’m still in the marital bed and don’t intend on leaving it. She cooked me my favorite dinner for my birthday and celebrated a little by eating dinner with us before she had to go to work. She continues to do nice things without hint of attitude and tries to engage me in friendly conversation. When she does my tone says the same…dim/dark. I was on her computer the other day to update her spyware and run a scan. I saw that she was looking into apartments and section 8 apartments. Nice thought but around here, there’s at least a 2 year waiting list. She’s even been on cheap apts.com but I doubt she’ll find anything there. We’ll see if she even goes through with it. So the ride is still not over it seems…only difference is this time she got caught and got called out on the carpet about it. Me well I'm good. As I said I'm working out and praying ALOT. Yes I'm mad but I'm not as bad as I used to be. I'm keeping expectations to 0 and have been. Ive contacted a lawyer but they cant do much since we're still in the same house. My faith is in God and his plan for us.
Tune in tomorrow….same bat time same bat channel
Last edited by Gman3388; 01/15/0908:06 PM.
Gman Me 40 W 30 kids B 11 B 10 D 8 Been here off and on since 06. PA Confirmed Dec 08.. With God, anything is possible. Do or do not there is no try. Sometimes you have to roll the hard six...
