Hi Hoosier,good to hear you sounding brighter and reconnecting. I guess it is infectious? you would know right. Its funny about old b'f. Afew years back I met up with an old flame-by chance we live miles away but he was working in area, we went to dinner and it was as if 30+years had never been. Instant attraction/ chemistry. He had m soon after we broke up and I attended the wedding, I married a year or so later and he attended mine and I think we met up once more back then as couples but then I moved away and apart from C,cards that was it. Well I nearly fell off my chair laughing when he told me that nearly every time he and his wife fell out over whatever my name got brought up. You just never know who remembers you kindly or not! lol. I hardly knew his wife but apparently his mum had always wanted me as DIL! Bless her. It did my spirits a power of good I have to tell you. So just soak up the good new feelings it does refect outwards to others I,m sure.
Well, see, we were never romantically involved. Not exactly. We were more like best friends (no benefits!) I was involved with someone else romantically at the time. I don't think I was ever able to talk with anyone as openly and honestly as we did. In fact, we sort of eventually lost touch because he was so unsupportive of my other relationship--the man I eventually married, quite disastrously.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Just a little while ago you were down in the dumps about not having support or friends, that you were praying for that ....
.... seems, God does answer them. This is a lesson for me. I have felt that mine go unanswered, but maybe I should just wait a little longer, 'eh!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Just a little while ago you were down in the dumps about not having support or friends, that you were praying for that ....
.... seems, God does answer them. This is a lesson for me. I have felt that mine go unanswered, but maybe I should just wait a little longer, 'eh!
Well, things happen in God's own time, which is rarely our timeline. And believe me, not as we expect.
I am reminded of a calligraphy piece in my best friend's kitchen when I was in high school: "to believe in God is to know that all the rules will be fair, and that there will be wonderful surprises."
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
But to discover that I was remembered warmly and with affection for 25 years is so healing. Apparently I once took a photo of some leaves when we were taking a walk together so long ago, and he still has that photo in his office.
When I was going thru my sitch with my wife, I reconnected with my very first girlfriend, who "went steady" with me between 2nd and 5th grades! I started my e-mail with "I don't know if you even remember me, but . . . " and she e-mailed back that "I still have the ring you gave me in 2nd grade!" (I bought this fake diamond ring -- heck, I don't even think they had CZ back then -- at the dime store!).
I felt the same tingle you did, Hoozh -- like "Wow, this person has thought of me SO FONDLY, after ALL THIS TIME!!!"
Thank you--yes, I am. Trying to fight off a cold, so far fairly successfully.
My new/old friend is dealing with WAW syndrome. His wife sounds like she's gone off the deep end, long ago. He has always been a kind and gentle person, and I feel so bad for him. She moved out in the spring, is moving resolutely forward with divorce, and is making his life miserable--but he's still in love with her and unable to let go. It amazes me how these situations always seem to play out in exactly the same ways, with minor differences in names and details.
As for me, dropping the rope has been a difficult but very peaceful thing. I don't need the pain any more, I guess. And that's a very good thing.
Nine months ago today. And a new hoosiermama has been born.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
