G40 and I both agree to take it slow and just enjoy being with each other for now. I do want some time before getting hitched again. Emotionally, I am very stable now and have no pain anymore about my marriage failing. I know that there is always more I can work on to show her my appreation for who she is. I want to always continue to strive and make her happy.
My cousin is a good friend with her uncle (small world here in Portland Oregon). They talked after I had met her uncle and my cousin informed me that her uncle says that she is the jewell of the family (only daughter with 6 brothers). He said she's a very nice girl and if you are caring, strong, not a jerk, and a gentleman, she'll be a good woman for you. Her ex husband was a scammer, a con man, that cheated on her quite a bit.
My biggest concern is religion. I am not religious, but I am very supportive of everyones right to have and practice their own beliefs. She comes from a very devout multi-generation Christian heritage. Her father is a minister at two Lutheran churches. I wonder if they will accept my non-beliefs or if they will persist in trying to convert me. I have attended church service with her once, but it was a bit boring for me as the sermon was all in Vietnamese which I dont currently comprehend. My hope is that they will see me as a good man that takes the rightous path in life preached by most religions and that I follow the golden rule.
She has been telling me of a guy that works at her gas station/u-haul/auto shop/towing/car wash/mini mart that is in a crumbling marriage. His wife hits him, talks with other men and has left him for extended periods. He is taking care of her kids from a prior relationship. G40 believes that his wife used him only to get a green card. G40 seems to have given him some good advice - dont be a wuss and make some consequences for the inappropriate actions of his wife. She says that even her brother and mother both have anger issues and treat him badly as an employee.
