My positives are in the form of baby steps. The first step is the hugs I now receive. A year ago the hugs were rushed and cut short. Now, the hugs are longer and more personal. Last year she wouldn't let me hold her hand. Now, if I want I can hold her hand in the car and in bed. Today, she's doesn't get annoyed if I ask her who's was that on the cell phone. She will tell who it is and go about her buisness. This year my W has gone to bed the same time I have a few days in a row. A few days ago, she slept the couch.
This morning I told her I was serious about getting a D if things didn't get better. I reminded her that the summer wasn't far away and asked if she had a plan. She said no. I suggest that she go back to the old MC, even though he wasn't much help he knows what she's like. She said she didn't know. Then I asked her if she wanted to work on our M. She said yes. I suggested that she start kissing me on the cheek. This is my W's second M and her XH would interpret any affection from her as an invitation for s$x. I told her a kiss would show that I don't want to jump her bones, but a sign that you care about me.
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