Heading down my own path

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Bobbi...

I am glad you are coping and Dan is getting help, thats really something. I notice you do this alot though...

"Then I said something like "You know, because clearly tonight we are having such a hard time getting along..."

I have known my ex 13 years, we never argued. We had shared interests, friends, tastes and werent leading separate lives AT ALL and still ML right up until the day he moved out finally, 2 weeks after the bomb. We havent had a cross word since he left me. We get on great, we always did do, there was no drama.

Yes its frustrating to me that he wouldnt go to MC or even talk to me AT ALL about his decision to leave.. but like he said, I love you like a friend. I'm not ILWY anymore. I did all the pleading and reasoning you did.. but we get on so well, you love my family, all those years.. he said he couldnt stay with me because of history or other people or shared interests or sense of humour, that he wasnt in love with me anymore and this was just the right thing for him, he had lent on me too much and wanted space.

Guess its not going to 'work' that you keep beating him over the head with the fact that you get on well.

Isnt it about limerance ? That thing that binds you? And these guys just seem to have lost it. As the ILYBIMILWY Anymore book says.. there can be a number of reasons for that, abusive situations, depression, just not putting the effort in, but unless he gets himself straight, he wont see that.

Good luck with telling the kids, that must be so tough on you, especially telling Nathan for a second time. Thinking of you !!!
Al xxx