PM, Right now the OW is meeting all of your H emotional and physical needs. Remember falling in love the first time and all the intensity and pleasure it was. They think they are soulmates and have NOT experienced the test of time yet.
Have you exposed fully? Nothing takes the passion out of an A when you bring it into the light.
I saw that like me, your H is involved with an A with one of his direct reports. As long as they work together and have created this secret world, your R will not work.
My H's OW wants her nice pay, overtime, my H, and his pay. She is a gold digger and as long as she has these comforts she doesn't care about his family and is turning my H away from us also.
I have recently exposed the A to mgmt. Will it help me -- No, it will hurt us financially.
But by not exposing makes me just as guilty as them ethically. Sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest to do. I did not even want to sign my code of ethics this year knowing what was going on. H and OW made me a silent partner in this. It has been totally disrespectful to carry this A on at work with me working there. I am waiting to see what action will be taken.
My H was the most ethical man that I knew prior to this so that is why I know he is so far gone with this OW. Also he has also started drinking heavily again after sobriety of almost 15 years. These past few months he looks terrible
I know we need to DB (or plan a) in hartley book but we need to be strong for ourselves. keep us posted.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
