I have not agreed to reconciliation at this point. I told her I was skeptical of her and would like to see us string together several good experiences together in a row before committing to counseling and all the work needed to truly reconcile.
She agreed that taking things slowly was not a bad idea and voiced her commitment to doing whatever it takes to help rebuild my trust and faith in her. She has gone back and forth in the past, but she never said that before!
I am not sure if the counselor is 'pro-marriage' or not. More important to me is that our counselor relates to us on a spiritual level - and based off what I saw of her website, I think I could be comfortable with her suggested counselor.
Once we can prove to ourselves that we can keep the happy lovey ball consistently rolling for a month or two, we will begin the counseling sessions.
Until then, its all about having fun together and enjoying our company. Its been so long since we could just hang out and smile so that is our priority at the moment. Keep it simple.
We identified three things we did during our recent time together that seemed to make all the difference in the world, so we decided to consider them our 'rules of engagement'.
1.) No talking about the past unless its pleasant memories.
2.) No talking about divorce.
3.) No criticism, be courteous and respectful to one another.
Otherwise anything goes!
Me: 37 Wife: 40 Son: 7yo Son: 18 mo Bomb: 12/31/07 Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now
