Exposing at EA

[Still Waters]

I know, I know. Part of my indecision is because of how DR seems to suggest not talking about the R at all and making believe that everything is fine. Fake it till you make it.

But, for my own piece of mind, I think I should confront her about it once. And then never bring it up again.

Here's what I think I'll say:

"I know you're hurt, confused, and scared right now, and I want you to know that I do have the patience, strength, and love to work through this with you. And I do not want a divorce. But every day that goes by I lose a little bit of that patience, and I gain a lot more strength. I've made the choice to commit to this marriage and to do everything I can to show you that I can meet all of your needs. So now the choice is yours. You can either choose to work on this marriage with me, and if you do I believe that it can become stronger than its ever been. Or you can continue to see if there's something better out there for you. But you can't have both. Because there's no way for us to make any real progress while you're emotionally involved with someone else."