These are all good ?'s My husband left this past Monday after dropping the "D" bomb on me last Tuesday. He went to go visit his family and I have been working on the 180. In fact, I have reaaranged the bedroom around, redid the entire closet where it is perfect. the house is immaculate and i am working on tackling the garage so I thought when he came home, he would see I wasn't sitting on my butt the entire time. One of the reasons I believe for our big blow up was that I didn't appreciate the house we live in because he was constantly taking care of it. I was going through a state of depression due to his ex wife and a custody battle. I just kind of let him do whatever he wanted with the house and stayed out of the way. But that was wrong because it blew up in my face big time. I was labeled lazy and all I did was sit on the couch all day or play on the computer not looking for a job. In the beginning he said I didn't need to get a job but I was stupid to think I could do whatever I wanted and let him bring in the money, take care of the house and as long as I gave him sex that would be enough. Nope. Domestic responsibilites are important now that I am finding out. Granted he may have leaving still on his mind, but he has not been home in a few days. The house has been immaculate since last Tuesday and has stayed that way. I know he is thinking he may be coming home to a mess, but I want it to be such a nice surprise. At leaast I feel better about myself for contributing. I don't know why I didn't before, I guess I was lazy. But I have been reading the divorce busting book and the dr..i stopped at chapter 6 on the dr until my hsuband comes home.
Has anyone got any other advice? When you do the 180 are you still having sex with your partner if they are still in the same house? see I am confused on this, because I love havingsex withmy husband, i am in myt 30's and he loves having it with me. But I didn't want to add another issue to the mix of denying or not having sex all together. I need to know, should I wait or if I feel intimate I should still do it. I know many husbands may not have that problem they are fighting for their wives to have it. But what if the wife has already gave it and never held it over their husbands head, but just didn't do anything else like clean the house, contribute to the finances, etc. I am proud to say I do have a p/t job to help contribute and I am appreciating all the hard work it does take to keeping the house up.
