WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice IV

[FaithfulH]

((((25yearsmlc)))), I miss you....thanks for the note....and, yes, things are amazing...not perfect...just amazing!

Now back to our main event....

LonelyD,

First, you need to be thankful that AmyC cannot reply right now. 25yrs and I have 2X4's....and we've been where you are....but, AmyC would have blown you outta the water by now. Why? Because she (we) care enough to slap you back to reality before you REALLY mess up your whole family's life. Notice I didn't say anything about your W? Guess what....you NEVER controlled her...you don't control her now....and you NEVER WILL control her (or your kids). So, we share what YOU can do about YOU!

I guess maybe some of my angst at your sitch is because you remind me of somebody I know very well....ME! Check this for accuracy....

• You believe that you know what's best for your W and kids and are willing to do whatever it takes to protect them from harm's way.
  
  You view this as Loving...they see it as Controlling
  
  
• You know that your heart is in the right place, you're just misunderstood by many (most) people
  
  You view this as Sacrificial.....they see it as Arrogance or Martrydom
  
  
• You wonder when the day will come that the mayor will knock on your door and announce "Come one come all....I pronounce today LONELYD-DAY!! Join us for a parade in your honor!" OK...that last one may be a bit over the top....but, at some level, you think that one day everybody will see what a great guy you are!
  
  You view that as Justice...they say "Get over yourself"
  
  
• You constantly talk about your W, think about your W, wonder when your W will hit bottom
  
  You view it as Caring...they say GAL
  
  
• You come here and lay it on the line and tell us what you believe is the most accurate reflection of your sitch
  
  You view this as Honest and Humble....we say "Your just like us...hurt, angry, sad...and you brought your crap here just like us....so don't get mad when we try to pull you out of the ditch"!

I suggest you:

1) Get on your knees and stay there until God reveals what you need to change/do....then go DO IT!
2) Re-read DB....then go DO IT (maybe for the first time)!
3) Get to your therapist and be honest with them....NOW!

It ain't too late to save your family....remember "INTEGRITY is what you do when NOBODY is looking (or seems to care)"...

What're you gonna do, LonelyD?