Exposing at EA

[Still Waters]

Yes, she definitely has told him things that she wouldn't admit to me. For one, she described me as being incredibly depressed this summer and painted me to be some kind of cold, near suicidal mute. Which is exaggerating beyond belief! I was SLIGHTLY depressed because things with my job weren't going very well, but I got through it and now I'm completely fine.

From their chats, I can how she is leaning on him for support. They used to chat about me back when we first separated, talking about how sad I was because I was so upset that she was leaving. But now they don't chat about our M anymore. But she does tell him all her problems, asks him for advice with her job and with her friends, tells him any exciting news that happens with her. And he's the same way with her.

And she doesn't tell me most of the things she tells him. She doesn't ask me for advice anymore, she doesn't tell me good news right away, and she definitely doesn't come to me for support and encouragement when she's feeling down.

So, it seems like they're in an EA and won't even admit it to each other. But from the outside it's pretty clear to me. The OM is also kind of an aloof guy, and has always been weird with girls. As in, girls have liked him before but they could never tell if he liked them. So my W may be into him and he's not quite responding. Which is maybe why she wants to do the separation and not divorce yet to see if the OM will respond before she leaves me. How nice.

And that's why it really bothers me that she's trying to get him a job where she works, which will put them together every single day.