you say you have a "fairly good r" otherwise, but in an earlier post you discuss how you want her to know how close you are to leaving. Seems to me that regardless of what started it all, your m is in trouble and you MIGHT want to read DB Remedy book (I prefer that one b/c it presupposes you don't like divorce and spends less time on why divorce is a bad idea generally than the first DB book). Also, you are assuming your sex life and issues are completely related to sex drive, whereas there may be other issues bothering your wife that are not apparent to you.
For instance, hypothetically, if you have a temper but cool off fast, you may not realize that your wife is still hurt the next day, b/c you are "over it" and therefore it'd take you by surprise to learn that the reason she wasn't "in the mood" is b/c she's hurt by something you forgot you said.
Just a thought. I guess I don't believe that SSM's are as one dimensional as some people think. There are usually other issues in it. If you truly have a HSD and or hers is simply a low sex drive, that's one thing. THEN I'd say just read the SSM book and do what it says...but you were talking about leaving the m. I mean if it's otherwise pretty good....why would you leave? B/C it's important? Oh, then read all you can...
From my experience, a love letter won't do much if it isn't what's missing for HER. Have you tried Chapman's "Five Love Languages"? The way you want to show your love for her, may not be the way she wants to receive it. Make sense?
Good luck, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
