One thing is certain from all of our interactions on this site, it is much easier to help others than to help yourself. I can’t think of any advice to give myself!
You, like Corri and a few others, are a rare creature, a woman that has come back from the land of the (sex) dead. You were once lost but now have found your passion again. That makes you a celebrity to us horny guys around here! You have defected and we are all dying to find the secrets to unlocking that passionate woman, however small she may have become, that is hidden away within our low lib wives. You likely have some clues.
Regarding your husband’s strange behaviour, I’d say the stress is definitely getting to him, although in my case stress actually makes me need sex even more. I know for most men stress beats up their libido, not like it does with women though. Given enough visual/physical stimuli we usually respond whether we want to or not.
Have you resorted to basic techniques of dressing up in revealing clothes and aphrodisiac dinners? check out:
Aphrodisiacs: A Guide To What Really Works Author: Choueke, Esmond Reissue; Paperback 125 pages Published: November 1998 Kensington Publishing Corporation ISBN: 0806519975
Most guys really are much simpler than women. The set of conditions necessary for us to “perk up” are countable on one hand, versus the complex equation that would stump Einstein that is required to connect the points of the universe for most women. Don’t slap me here, I’m just speaking from my experience.
I’d say keep trying to be sexy and don’t turn him down unless you really really can’t go through with it. If you must say no, then do it very gently, immediately offering either a “quick fix--BJ, HJ... to help him in that moment or something special tomorrow night. Also do whatever you can to lower his work stress. I don’t know your husband so I can’t say exactly what that would be but for me it would be: supportive attitude, not naggy, don’t attack him with household problems or chores as soon as he walks through the door, nice romantic dinners now and then, cheerful and playful attitude.
Anyway, know that you are amazing to have arisen from the ashes of your old antisex self.
