in a galaxy far, far away...

[Silent Chrleader]

Hmmmmm.......I understand your frustration with your H's "wishy-washy" "flip-flopin" decision making, but part of me wonders if deep down, he really knows where he belongs, so that's why he's there.(?) I really don't know what to think! Is he just reluctant to give up the fantasy he has in his head about the possibility of going back and re-living his past? Is he perhaps trying to get you to "throw him out" thus letting him off the hook of being responsible for the decision?

The likelihood of reconcilliation is supposedly better with him in the house, but I understand the pain you are feeling, and I do feel that real growth and self-confidence grew for me through seperation.

I guess I would say to get to GAL'ing your behind off. Don't let him push your buttons. Don't give him that power. Start doing fun things and getting out of the house and let him sit there! And take your son with you when/if possible! Tell your son, that his Dad is going through a tough time, but it's his red wagon. Neither of you have to let your H drag you down with him! You are giving him way too much power over your happiness.

Use your anger and show your son the strong woman you are and show him how to take charge of his life by setting that example! How do you want to teach your son to handle life crisis? Remember, he will learn from your example. I'm betting that part of the difficulty for your son is the fact that he is worried about you! Take that issue off your son's plate by showing him you are OK.

If H doesn't want to join with the family, his loss! Let him see you and your son having fun without him! Show H what he is really losing!!

This is basically what I am trying to do with my S17 now, and I have really seen an improvement in his behavior and in our relationship.

JMHO!!

((((((((((BG & Son!)))))))))