The unexpected happened today. X called again. Again I hijacked the conversation. Asked how the dogss, sheep, her, work etc were doing. Then I said we need to set some days up that I can go an pick up the rest of my stuff from the house. That took her back a bit, she said yes we did but no hurry. Stark contrast from Nov when she said I needed to get it out soon. Mentioned some movies I have seen lately and about my housing search. She seem interested in both. Told her I would be happy to take her to dinner one night but that she has to give me at least a weeks notice:) She laughed but said ok. She asked if the "housings" would allow cats. We have/had one of those naked cats like on Austin Powers. She wants me to take him when I get a place of my own. I'm more than happy to. All in all I think it went well. I sense she felt a new me and was interested in that. She did say she has enjoyed her space the past few weeks. Funny thing, I felt more of her friend than ever today. I even told her one of the movies was a great date movie and "they" should go. I didn't even feel anxiety. Maybe I am further detatched than I thought. I also felt that what everybody says on here does work. I sense that she feels less presure, curious about my going 'forward' etc. I really do have faith that this does take time and that there is still a chance of us getting back together. No expectations though. Will go 'forward' (I love that V) as if she is not going to be part of my life. Told her as much too. Said 'You know how I feel and where I would like to see us, but I am moving forward with my life and if you want to be part fine if not fine too. Just don't wait too long because I may not be available then.' Wow. What a great feeling!!!! Empowerment is found everywhere in here:) thanks B
