It is sort of off and on--which is one of the reasons I am so suspicious of the progress. She started taking Lexipro and it has helped her emotional wildness out a whole lot. I know that these sorts of drugs can influence sex drive but it is not like I would notice. She also read part of SSM but I don't think she has really taken it to heart. I asked her to read the part about the HD partner but she has yet to do so. I have to admit though....I am beginning to feel like the damage has been done. It has been so hard for so long and there has been so much pain that I don't know if I will be able to come back...even if she becomes the perfect wife tomorrow. Confusion and pain....still my two constant companions.