dreamit,

I am very impressed with you. I wish my wife would step up to the plate and participate in our marriage like you did in yours. You just have to be patient. Your husband is probably pretty suspicious of this big change in you. He is probably wondering if it is for real, how long it will last, or if you are just doing it to pacify him and you don't really want to. I know these things and more run around in my head from time to time. Make no mistake, witholding sex and physical intimacy is just as much a betrayal as infidelity. It will probably take him a while to get used to the idea of the new you. Just keep up the good work and keep the communication lines open. Good luck to you!