Can you say "Power Play?" That's what he's doing to you. He's still probably really angry and really hurt from everything that has gone before. And he's going to have to get over it. Tell him so. In a loving way, of course.
Have you told him about SSM, reading it, what it has meant to you, how you're eyes have opened, etc? If not, have a heart to heart. If he shrugs, and says, that's nice, it's because he's probably afraid to hope. Ask him to read it, too.
Keep on doing what you are doing. Be genuine. Be sincere. His cold shoulder is probably a defense mechanism. If he continues on this path for a few more months, I'd seek counseling.
The changes you have experienced will take time to take effect (is this when you use the e effect or the a affect?) You can't control him, you can't control his responses, but you can control your actions and your responses. Keep at it. Sometimes all it takes is one person dedicated to making a difference. Be patient. And keep on keepin' on.
