A strong emotional attachment (EA) to a woman is usually even more intimate to them than a physical one (PA). Us men seem to make this important distinction, of "at least it's not a PA!" when to the wife, they've already emotionally checked out of the marriage and cheated on us.
So I think your question is positioned incorrectly. The question you need to ask is, "Should I expose an affair?"
And there are two strong camps on this one, and you'll never find consensus here (I'm personally in favor of exposure). I suggest the book "Not Just Friends" -- after reading it, you may have some more answers.
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Part of me wants to expose. The other part wants to go dark. And another part of me wants to see her and show her how good I look (been working out like crazy), how nice our apt looks now, and how much I've changed. Just can't decide which road to take here.
I would say "DO BOTH," meaning expose AND show her how good you look and how much you've changed!!
Let me ask you a question: in your marriage PRE-AFFAIR, would you say you were more the controlling type, or more the passive, pleasing type?
