just a note that your d's comments regarding becoming bitter, are red flags. You know this. You KNOW this. Your stbxw is the mother of your daughters, and for that reason alone, you must speak respectfully about her (in front of your daughters).
GAL and start it the times the girls are with their mom. And if they ask you if you want their mom to be happy, why isn't your answer "YES!" Honestly, Frank, you want her happy with YOU...but if you had the choice of having your wife back now, but miserable with you, would you truly want that? Would you want your daughters to see that? And to accept that?
You have to let your wife fall on her face and stop staring. The A will run its' course. It will. If it doesn't, if this OM really IS THE MAN for your w, so be it. Better to learn now than to waste more time trying to deny it. OM...who? He does NOT matter. Who cares where his truck is parked? What OM? WHO??? YOU DON"T KNOW B/C YOU DON"T CARE B/C YOU ARE GAL....
You are looping around and analyzing each interaction. Stop it. She needs some brochures and you have a machine that makes them....that's it. Poof. No mystery.
If she wants more from you or has something to tell you, she can use words...she knows where you are. Plan something fun with the girls. Do something fun with them. I told you I took my 3 kids to Italy for our 25th anniversary (h had no time off since gone to Alaska, then had maybe 'few days off, maybe...blah blah blah.") and I said, "no thanks, sorry cannot make plans at last minute forever"--story of a doctor's wife/life so we (me and kids) went to Rome and Florence for 2 weeks. Best money I ever spent/borrowed in my life. Seriously.
WE (yes, h and I and d11) are now planning a trip to Germany/Moscow where d19 is performing ( I know, Moscow in the winter??....how 'Tolstoi' of me) and this time, h will be coming too. I seriously doubt he'll have a hard time getting the days off this trip...but I will never again put an important trip or anything on hold, waiting for him or permission. Neither should you. Take the girls somewhere. Narrow down the choices so you know it's affordable and say, "Here are the choices. Where would you like to go?" and TAKE THEM...they'll remember it the rest of their lives and there are no reminders of stbxw where you go.
Never say never. But move on and whatever happens, do NOT let your daughters words/warning go unheeded. Demonstrate you will NOT become bitter. Join something or take a class Thursdays, etc. Be busy. GAL.
Talk to you soon, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
