Karen, Kudos for not responding. Another one to print off and add to your file! Remember anything that you email can be forever! Keep email exchange positive on your side and he has nothing against you that is in writing! Ha! But on the on the other hand, he gives you a gold mine!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I think you made the right choice. Why give him the satisfaction of a reply to his being just stupid? He does seem to bait you, you just need to not bite the hook! lol Hope today is a better day.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I emailed him back today thanking him for bringing D9's glasses to the appt. yesterday (she left them in H's car). Then told him D9 wants to go to his church as they're offering a prize if they know their memory verse. Told him I get the next 2 Sundays after that though. I asked him if he would mind emailing or dropping the verse off for D9 to study this week and he emailed he would asap. So more professional today. Maybe he's cooled down. Yep, I think he's a button-pusher, and really after over 20 years you really know which buttons to push. I don't quite understand why he wants to push my buttons though, he should be having a full, happy life with OW you know... Getting ready now to go to the afterschool program D9 and I go to which'll be fun. Someone from the church today called and asked me to be on a fellowship committee so I said sure and hopefully that won't be too horrible. I've never been on a committee before so I don't know what I agreed to! Karen
Went to a job fair this am one town over. It was right in the middle of 2 colleges, so most of the people attending were college students in their brand-new business suits. I did fine, though, and just up-front told everyone there that I was a sahm returning to the work force. I actually enjoy schmoozing and stuff like that so it was ok.
I had a bad DB day today. I had a weak moment or moment of insanity or something. I had deleted the email I was NOT going to send and basically rewrote it today. I just said in it that it sounds like he's concerned I'm not keeping him informed and I will keep trying to do my best. I told him I tell him every time there's new info re: the kids and would appreciate him doing the same. Said an idea I thought of is that he might want to call D9's C and get updates on her every month as I do and gave him her #. OK, this is where it gets bad: I also told him I agreed with him that our M was dysfunctional. That I could only speak for myself, but I was depressed and immature and have really worked on that this past year. That I think whether married or single it's good to work on your weak areas. That was basically it. I know, I know, I keep picking up that darn rope!!! Karen
He does wiggle it though so I will give you kudos for trying to not pick it up! Good thing about going to the job fair. You have sooo much energy and I feel like a drained battery...send some my way will ya?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think that would be too much time/trouble for my H to bother! He hadn't emailed his plans for the weekend yet, so I emailed him today. D9 wants to go to his church this Sunday so I suggested he could take them Saturday night and Sunday or Fri. and Sat. night. He emailed he's going to pick them up tonight at 7 and then take them home, they basically sleep, and then he's going to take them to a race he's doing tomorrow (an 18 mile race)! and I guess OW watches them and drop them off after around noon. Then pick them up Sunday for church and a couple hours (lunch & the mall prob.). And this is right before mediation/divorce so I imagine it will be even less after this. I'm looking forward to the D and him having to hopefully have some full weekends. B/c he still has the nerve to criticize my parenting when he doesn't even really parent inmo.
I'm actually having a good day today with the kids. Going to get groceries and art club and then work out tonight. S15 is trying to avoid studying for a final he needs to take today or tomorrow!!! A typical day...except for the fact it's freezing here--going down to 23 tonight--so much for warm Florida!!! Karen
So this is our day: H woke the kids up, both sick with colds, at 6:15 and took them to an 18 mile race he did out of town somewhere. It was 24 degrees, and D9 said she was sick & sneezing the whole time. Then took them to lunch and dropped them off. I don't know how he could consider having them sleep over and him running a race and leaving them alone or with OW any type of quality time. The kids are too sick to go to church with him tomorrow, and he also didn't make any plans to see the kids on Monday which is a holiday for him. I'm surprised that he seems to be backing off seeing the kids right before the D, but I guess maybe he realized he's not cut out for primary custody and/or the OW prob. doesn't like to be around my kids that much. I know S15 doesn't like her, although he's a quiet kid so I'm sure isn't real obvious about it.
I have felt for a long time, that a lot of our WAS, mine included, are messed up, and many of us would be better off without them. They are the ones that are throwing away their family and unconditional love and all that. But maybe this gives us a chance to have that with someone else I guess. I think I sound low but I'm not really, just taking off the rose-colored glasses. Karen
So H asked D9 to call him if still sick (2 days into a cold so yes) and can't go to church tomorrow. They talked for less than a minute and she asked if he wanted to talk to S15 and he said no! I think he was prob. with OW. I kind of think he can do all this stuff to me and I'm very forgiving, but acting like this with our kids is unforgiveable!!! karen
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