TOH,
You have decisions to make and they will need you patience and strength.....You made some great choices and have some gaols already set up that are great...goal setting is in order now for you and your D and N...take your time right now to adjust your self and your house..I like your focus...

Not to many men would still be coming by to help a LBS as much as yours does, just take his help say thank you and move forward...I think that your getting it and not everyone's stitch is the same and maybe your's is so full of guilt that he does what he does... which is a good thing..

I would also suggest that YOU do not file..let him do it and it might be too early yet.. you still get along and he still helps out...I for one would not pursue it yet, IMHO..

I think that your doing okay and getting better every day...your learning
ITSY

M54
H54
married 30 years
Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004
Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07?
Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05
Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues
OW 5/2005 not a prostitue
Divorced 9/2006