Okay, I see what you are saying. I fully understand your reluctance to actually D because it is difficult and it will effect your child and the R with him....

But what do you mean by not having a committment? What exactly does that mean? And how will it change the relationship you currently have with her? I guess I just don't understand specifically what you are doing... like you are trying to be at some middle ground where you are still married, but not married... maybe mentally not married, but legally married? But that's even more of a "lie" then living like you are married, but it's unhappy.

But I understand you are trying to grasp for something while still being cautious. And I understand you don't want to hurt anyone... I think that's good.

Do you see this married person you have feelings for often?




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