WAW taking a step home?

[MrBond]

My wife said the exactly same things when she first dropped the bomb. In fact, if you look at the majority of posters here, their spouses said the same thing. They really do make it seem like we made their lives terrible and that they never had any feelings for us EVER!

I definitely understand your frustration. The only thing I can suggest is to be cautious. If you want things to work out in the end, then encourage her but don't be too overzealous about it. That would probably scare her away and put too much expectations from you.

In my situation, my W has been much friendlier and has actually come home but still says we're "separated". So I see her as having temporary brain damage or being replaced by a pod person.

I think we both feel that after the crud that our Ws put us through, we want them to feel bad or remorseful, but that just isn't going to happen. Find the strength that you've accumulated during all this and let her see that she needs to deserve you and not the other way around.