"Life without you would be no life at all and he wants to try...."
"Won't see a c b/c he doesn't need some half wit to tell him how to live...'
"Won't get a physical..."
so tell me, where's the "trying" in this? Just wondering. You know, MAYBE he's never going to say "I quit" or "You're not worth it"....MAYBE he's going to do as little as possible to change, and say he "tried" but that YOU left HIM....you are still awaiting his response in writing, as if that will tell you...what?
He won't say he wants a sexless m, he'll just have one with you until you leave him, or accept it. Sorry, but right now that's what I see. He loves you, but he's too selfish/odd/saddled with baggage or whatever, to get help. So, that's that. He won't change. A letter with words on it...is enough for you? I mean, maybe it is. A lot of alcoholics, A LOT of them, love their families. They don't mean to choose to drink instead of go home. They think they'll stop drinking the next day, or whatev.....but they drink some more. So, the only question is for you....
what are YOU going to do w/ a m like the one you have? I mean, it's possible that leaving it is the only way to fix it. All you really know is that your past approaches have failed. What's different in this approach? J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
