Separated and Adjusting #3

[techguy]

So Carlos, Is there anything you could do differently relative to your wife?

Here is where I'm coming from:

We don't want to ever look weak, sad, or desperate while we are in the LRT. However, I've begun to realize that divorcebusting is very much an experimental approach at its core. That's what all the 180's are about. Try changing a bunch of things. Some will provoke a positive response in wife and many will not. We observe and adapt based on the results.

That was reinforced when I had my last DB coaching session. I was to try some things, observe and report back to coach in two weeks. We will then analyze the results and adapt for another two week period.

So what could you do differently? I know you have limited interaction with wife, so it's hard. But here is the thing... 180's don't have to be directly related to romance or relationship. Sometimes just doing things that confuse the wife is a benefit. The wife has a stereotype of you in her mind. You need to shake the stereotype.

So, for example, I gave up Diet Coke. Nothing at all to do with my relationship with wife. But I do know for a fact that it surprised the hell out of her!

What could you do like that?