Sending cyber safety vibes! I keep wandering back to when you sent your letter to ow and then a few days later she landed in your front yard. Could ows H have seen the letter too and it sent him deeper off the deep end?
Idunno, but do be careful.
Thinking about it from your H's side, there are so many people from ows life that are circling your life now again that it would be best to tell you anything and everythinig before someone else provived damaging info. At least that's what I've always told my H, I would prefer to hear it from him.
Glad you got some rest on your day off.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.